I know he’s driving me nuts!

Bode is going through an extremely annoying phase. Everything he says has to be prefaced by, “Do you know something?”

And I mean everything.

My responses are varied but usually I say, “Yes, I know everything.” Undaunted, he blabbers on. The other day, he and his BFF Seanie had an entire conversation that had to be prefaced with “do you know something” each time they spoke.

It was the longest playdate ever.

Jamie hit his limit the other day when Bode was trying to get his attention.

Bode: “You know something?”

Jamie: “Stop saying that! Just say ‘Hey Daddy.’”

Bode: “OK. Hey Daddy, do you know something?”

A Great Inheritance

Jamie and I reattempted the steep hike that was the catalyst for his heart surgery last month.

He did marvelously.

It was so wonderful to be on a date together doing what we love most. We talked about work projects as well as brainstormed ideas for future collaborations.

We also talked about the kids. I saw the Garfield movie on an endcap at Target for $5 and bought it for Haddie’s birthday. She has been harassing me about it for weeks, citing the last time she saw Garfield was years ago. She is able to recount the most freakishly specific details about what she was doing when she saw it.

Then, we talked about Bode. I continue to be impressed with how even-keeled he is. I can count on one hand how many temper tantrums he has had (whereas Haddie lived in timeout when she was 2 and 3). When I have his friends over, I am reminded of just how easy-going, agreeeable and mature he is.

Jamie acknowledged both.

“That Haddie, she has an amazingly keen memory like me,” Jamie boasted.

I agreed.

“And Bode,” he continued, “He inherited his dad’s wisdom and depth.”

I didn’t discount any of it but I wanted in.

“So, what did they inherit from me?” I queried, preparing myself for an outpouring of my good graces.

Long pause.

“They inherited your round head.”

Lessons learned

We’re not out of the woods yet with Jamie. He’s had some side effects from the blood thinner medication and also some pain in his foot we feared was a blood clot, which landed him back in the Urgent Care. Thankfully, they didn’t find anything wrong.

But overall, he’s doing well and the last week I’ve learned some things about him.

1) The Man is Vain.

He refused to take off his baseball cap in the hospital because of his bad hair. I told the man hospitals are the only place where you get a pass for bad hair (and everything else) days.


2) The Man is Addicted to Television.

He only watches television late in the evenings and often needs to fall asleep to it. I’ve made concessions in this area because it was the difference between him falling asleep in our bed vs. the couch and have learned to live with it.

But after his surgery where he was barely lucid and couldn’t put two words together, he managed to say this:

Where’s the remote?

Intervention needed.

3) His Children’s Empathy is Questionable.

Because we have two boys and two girls, we are highly competitive and our loyalties are evenly divided. However, Fat Kitty tips the gender scale and Hadley and Bode often obsess that we actually have three boys and two girls.

The first night Jamie was in the hospital was the most difficult for me because there was a deluge of uncertainty. The kids and I brought him an overnight bag and visited with him but I was reluctant to leave at the end of the evening. Then sweet Bode piped up:

Oh no! Now we’ll only have two boys and two girls at home.

The kid could have waited until we left the hotel room to start writing Jamie off.

3) The Man Has Great Friends

In addition to the many people who called, watched the kids and attended to so many of our needs, Jamie had some of his buddies stop by. College friend Whitney and his wife were house-hunting from Utah and generously brought us a healthy meal from Olive Garden. Then, Jamie’s childhood friend Ivan arrived loaded up with heart-healthy groceries. He also happened to drop by at the exact same time the BYU basketball game was on.

Kind of convenient that Ivan doesn’t have cable and we have an 84″-inch HDTV. :)

4) The Man Has An Obsessed Wife

A few years ago, we watched a special on television that told the story of a husband who was in a horrific accident. He survived but his short-term memory was destroyed. This had many ramifications but the one the wife hated the most was anytime they were separated–even if it was just for a bathroom break–when they were reunited, he would respond like it had been years since they had seen each other.

Initially, this would be flattering but after a while, such celebrations would be annoying.

Welcome to Jamie’s world. Such is the trade-off for a gushing wife who’s just glad he’s still around.

Hospitals, Heart Conditions and Tiny Miracles

One week ago today, my husband Jamie entered Good Samaritan Hospital. The three days that ensued were among the most frantic and stressful of our married lives.

Jamie had originally set a doctor’s appointment to undergo some routine testing for the chest pain he had experienced during aerobic activity. Almost immediately he was admitted into the Clinical Decision Unit as the doctors forged forward for a diagnosis and treatment.
No abnormalities showed up on his EKG nor on the other tests the doctors performed so they decided he should spend the night for monitoring and then put him on the treadmill at 7 a.m. the next morning.

If you’re not familiar with sluggish Jamie in the morning, that alone might have killed him.

Sure enough as his heart rate rose, the chest pain began. The problem is, though he was hooked up to every contraption in the hospital, no abnormalities showed up on the EKG and the cardiologist was stumped.

“Oftentimes the EKG doesn’t show what’s really going on,” the doc explained. “We performed the treadmill test on a patient and everything looked fine. We sent him home and he had a heart attack the next day.”

I’m not sure if that was supposed to be comforting?

For the next step, Jamie was given an angiogram (where a thin tube is placed into a blood vessel in the groin and X-rays are taken of the blood flow in an artery). The diagnosis was finally reached: there was significant damage to Jamie’s left and central arteries that was caused by his cancer radiation treatments 12 years ago. This resulted in 70% blockage and the resulting pain.

The cardiologist sat me down to discuss the options. The first he presented was bypass surgery, which I don’t know about you, but the mere mention almost made me have a heart attack. Fortunately, he was reluctant to pursue this because of Jamie’s young age (there is a big chance of having to redo it in 10-15 years) and risks associated with the damage the radiation has caused.

The temporary solution is he underwent another less invasive surgery to install stints to open up the blockage. They were not able to access all the problem areas without doing bypass surgery but they hope this process, along with blood thinning medication he will need to be on the rest of his life, will help alleviate the problem.

The surgery went smoothly but I had a wake-up call. I went through a range of emotions during those three days: uncertainty over what his conditions meant, dread the doctors wouldn’t find a diagnosis and then bald-face fear as I faced the very possible possibility that I could be left to raise our two young children without the love of my life. (On Wednesday, Mile High Mamas will feature guest blogger Catherine who lost her husband in an accident a few years ago).

To sustain me through it all were loving friends and family who offered words of support, watched my kids and brought us meals. I truly felt sustained and comforted during some of the most difficult moments. On the day of Jamie’s surgery, I rushed to retrieve my son from preschool and drop him off at a neighbor’s.

As I put the keys in the ignition, the horn started incessantly honking as the gauges and lights went haywire. We have have occasionally had this electrical issue but it had been over a year since the last incident. Incredulously, I marveled that it chose this moment of all moments to act up…and I couldn’t help but laugh hysterically.

Knowing there was a very great liklihood this electrical firestorm would drain the battery rendering me unable to get to the hospital in time, I turned to the Man Upstairs. I said a little prayer with as much certitude and humility as I could muster: “Dear Lord, if you can help Moses part the Red Sea, I KNOW you can make this car start working.”

And you know what? That is exactly what happened almost immediately.

It was a small test of faith amongst so many big trials.

But the biggest blessing of all is having my husband home.

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On the road to recovery

Let’s face it: We all need a bit of humor after the week we’ve had (did I mention I’ve also been sick?) Most importantly, Jamie is HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL and is doing well.

Of course, that didn’t stop me from hovering over him like an aircraft while he slept last night to ensure he was still breathing.

C’mon fess up: you’ve done that when your babies were sick, right?

On Monday, I’ll get into the nitty-gritty of it all but today, I just need a laugh. I’ve had a couple of great emails forwarded that I’d like to share.

The first one about “Kelpto Cat” caught stealing over 600 items on video camera is from my mother-in-law.

Neighbors beware: I’m putting Fat Kitty to work.

And this one is from my neighbor Angella. Of course, no irreverence is intended but it’s a perfect fit because it deals with a blond Canadian.

Too bad she isn’t a Pollack, too.

Blonds Explaining Easter

Three blondes died and found themselves standing before St. Peter. He told them that before they could enter the Kingdom of Heaven, they had to tell him what Easter represented.

The first blonde, an American, said “Easter is a holiday where they have a big feast and we give thanks and eat turkey.”

St. Peter said, “Noooooo,” and wouldn’t let her in.

The second blonde, a Brit, said “Easter is when we celebrate Jesus’s birth and exchange gifts.”

St. Peter said, “Noooooo,” and he wouldn’t let her in either.

The third blonde, a Canadian, said she knew what Easter was, and St.Peter said, “So, tell me.”

She said, “Easter is a Christian holiday that coincides with the Jewish festival of Passover. Jesus was having Passover feast with his disciples when he was betrayed by Judas, and the Romans arrested him. The Romans hung him on the cross and eventually he died. Then they buried him in a tomb behind a very large boulder … “

St. Peter said, “Verrrrrry good.”

Then the blonde continued, “Now, every year the Jews roll away the boulder and Jesus comes out. If he sees his shadow, we have six more weeks of hockey.”

Jamie’s Heart Condition Update

Thanks for all the concerned emails, Facebook comments and phone calls. To say the past 72 hours have been absolute chaos would be an understatement.

Jamie went to the doctor on Monday anticipating some routine testing but before he knew it, he was admitted to the hospital and they were going full-throttle for a diagnosis and treatment.

After numerous procedures, the cardiologist ascertained there is significant damage to Jamie’s left and central arteries that was caused by his cancer radiation treatments. This has resulted in 70% blockage and the resulting pain.

Options were bypass surgery, which the doc was reluctant to do because of Jamie’s age (big chance of having to redo it in 10-15 years) and risks associated with the damage the radiation has caused.

The temporary solution is he underwent another less invasive surgery to install stints to open up the blockage. They were not able to access all the problem areas without doing bypass surgery but they hope this process, along with blood thinning medication, will help alleviate the problem.

He’s still in the hospital recovering from his surgery and he wasn’t very lucid when I left. Thank you for keeping him in your prayers!

The Happy Birthday That Wasn’t So Happy


I’ve been pretty upfront that 2011 hasn’t exactly been the swellest of years but things took a turn for the worse last week. My birthday was yesterday but it was Ward Conference at church, which meant Jamie would be in meetings all day. His sister generously offered to make me a birthday dinner that night (YUM) but Jamie and I decided to celebrate on Friday while she watched the kids.

We planned to go to dinner but at the very last minute, I had a freak-out moment (not unusual in my world). My knee surgery is scheduled for Wednesday and I announced we HAD to go hiking just in case it was my last opportunity to ever do so again (overexaggeration is not unusual either). Obligingly, Jamie and I set out on a relatively steep climb and he stopped after just a few minutes.

“I can’t go on,” he said.

It was then that he revealed he’s been having heart problems. The first episode was in Crested Butte a few weeks ago and then again while he was racing around the house with Bode. This was his fourth heart “attack” in three weeks.

And yes, I freaked out. For those familiar with Jamie’s health history, he has an extensive one, including heart surgery for an arrhythmia a few years ago. This time, however, was different. He did not have the rapid heart rate but rather, a burning in his chest.

He is going to the doctor tomorrow morning and now my knee surgery may be on hold because we can’t afford to do both. Actually, we can’t afford to do either but heart problems trump knee any day.

I’m not sure what is it with birthdays but I’ve been having crummy ones the past few years. First, there was lice. Then, last year I was at the 2010 Olympic Games. This would seem like an amazing birthday and it definitely started out that way. I had breakfast with all my wonderful Microsoft peeps who bid me farewell because I was flying out later that day.

I arrived at the Vancouver airport three hours early, anticipating heavy security and a lot of crowds. There were both. I got in line and was soon asked to stand to the side as they ushered in a large group of people who were running late. I waited an hour before being able to check my luggage in. The process was frustrating but I still had plenty of time when I headed over to security.

I could tell there would be trouble just by looking at the security guard and he gave it to me.

“You cannot take two large carry-on items onto the plane.”

I glared at him but I knew he was right. I spent the next 15 minutes consolidating my items into one carry-on item–a piece of luggage I have traveled with for 10 years. When I had triumphantly crammed everything in, he snidely said, “OK, now go and see if your carry-on fits into that,” and he pointed to the metal outline that checks baggage size.

Because my bag was now bulging at the pockets, it did not fit. “You need to go back and check it in.”

We both knew darn well this particular piece of luggage was approved but the guy just wanted to be a jerk because he could. The prospect of enduring that line again was too much for me and I. Lost. It. Now, let’s keep in mind that I had been living on minimal sleep for 10 days and was a bit out of my gourd but I laid into that guy like I have NEVER laid into anyone before.

I wasn’t proud and it was not pretty.

I slunked back to the line and checked in my carry-on as I blubbered away. I ignored the security guard as I walked through a second time and waited in yet another line to pass through security. By this time, I was very close to missing my flight.

And I, of course, got pulled aside to have my carry-on checked. I begged the woman to please hurry because I was going to miss my flight and do you know what she said?

“Maybe you should have arrived to the airport early.”

And then came freak-out No. 2. How I HAD arrived three hours early. How I was not allowed to check-in for an hour, the security guard who made me recheck my bag and pretty much every grievance I’ve ever had with society since birth.

She let me through.

Sometimes insanity has its advantages.

But evidently in my world, birthdays don’t.

Update: Jamie went to the hospital a day early and was admitted for overnight evaluation. They’re trying to re-trigger the attack for diagnosis.

What is your family’s love language?

Jamie and I are different.

Sure, in many ways we think alike, have the same interests and similar methodology with raising our children.

But we go about life very differently. He is low-key. Methodical. Wise.

I am not.

One of the areas in which we are most different is how we need to connect. I am physical. I crave affection. My 4-year-old son Bode is the same and we maul each other all day long with kisses and snuggles whereas my 6-year-old Hadley barely likes to be touched. Jamie is somewhere in the middle.

We both work from home and in such a setting, you would think we see each other all day. This is not the case and he often spends most of the day (and sometimes the evening) holed up in his basement den.

At the conclusion of one such day, I desperately wanted to snuggle up and just talk to him.

He just wanted to unwind by

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When it rains, it pours

Just in case I was keeping track, this is what 2011 would amount to:

  • A BBQ that is busted due to a wind storm that flipped it over. You know. That apparatus we use to cook several times a week. Or that would be used.
  • A car that has been taken to the shop twice
  • A knee surgery next month, which will amount to $thousands$ in out-of-pocket expenses.
  • Owing a big, daunting, ugly wad of cash for our taxes.

Jamie says bad things come in threes. But what about fours, fives, sixes and sevens? May I remind you that last year at this exact time, I was gleefully getting ready to cover the 2010 Vancouver Olympic Games for Microsoft Office?

My, what a difference a year makes.

As for our latest:

We came home Sunday night from a glorious trip to Crested Butte (my second favorite on earth after my beloved Waterton). I was flying high and my only plans were to unpack, chill and maybe even catch up on some shows on my DVR.

What I ended up doing: Crisis management.

I figured out something was wrong when I was cooking dinner. I was making baked potato skins and had grabbed some bacon from the freezer. But here’s the (not-so) funny thing: it was no longer frozen. Then, much to my horror I realized the freezer was no longer working and everything was dethawed.

Did I mention we had hundreds of dollars of meat/food in there?

We were gone for three days and had no idea when The Great Meltdown occurred. Jamie and I spent the evening dumping most everything and transferring what little we could salvage to the dilapidated fridge in our garage we reserve for soda.

The damage? $750 for a new compressor. We’re not sure if it was due to the fact that since we’ve lived in our house, we have never once cleaned the coils.

In my defense, I didn’t even know the coils underneath the fridge needed to be cleaned every few months.

The serviceman seemed to think the problem is that the compressor is under warranty for five years and it’s been seven since we’ve had our Whirlpool fridge and it had simply run its course.

Either way, it sucks.

So, we’ve been scrounging around trying to figure out if we repair it, if we can get a cheaper quote, or if we just spring for a new fridge (ours is valued around $1,200). Through it all, I somehow managed to hold it together even when Jamie and I were arm-deep in defrosted chicken juice.

“Well, look on the bright side, Jamie. There is no one in this world I’d rather be doing this with.”

He looked at me, stone-faced.

“I retract that statement,” I continued. “If I had a maid, I’d make her do it.”

I want 2010 back.

The Ingrate…or amnesic

On Friday, Jamie and I hired a babysitter so we could attend a Bishopric dinner at a local restaurant. We arrived a few minutes early so we opted to run into Costco to get some cash. As we walked in arm-and-arm, I commented,

“I can’t remember the last time just the two of us went on a date.”

“Oh, really? What about that week-long cruise we took aboard the Norwegian Epic in November. Oh, and then there was our Serendipity date in NYC last month. Oh, and don’t forget when we went skiing with just the two of us in Park City Mountain Resort a few weeks ago.”

“I’ll shut up now.”

(Photo: At the Waldorf Astoria in NYC.)