Battling it Out at Denver’s Marriage Ref Auditions

On Saturday, my husband Jamie and I were invited to audition for the Marriage Ref, Jerry Seinfield’s brainchild on NBC.

No, Mom. We’re not on the brink of divorce but we need a comedic mediator for our ongoing dispute:

Jamie’s all-consuming obsession with growing The Great Pumpkin.

The whole thing unfolded almost by accident. When I was driving to my daughter’s Halloween Party on Friday, the hosts of Alice 105.9 were talking about the Marriage Ref’s auditions in Denver that weekend. Casting directors were looking for humorous squabbles that could be resolved by their celebrity panel.

I listened with moderate interest but then something clicked. The inordinate amount of time Jamie spends nurturing The Great Pumpkin is a kooky dispute, on par with past Marriage Ref episodes that included Fonzie the stuffed dog and a stripper pole in a bedroom.

I am not proud of this.

The show had open-call auditions at a few different locations. I did not want to stand in line for hours so tracked down a few different emails of casting agents who were scheduling auditions. Though they assuredly had a flood of emails, I figured I would hear back if it was meant to be.

And I did. Later that day, a casting agent contacted me and then the actual casting director emailed later that night. They scheduled us for Saturday afternoon and instructed us to bring props so we compiled every insane picture and newspaper article we could find.

Turns out we didn’t need them. One picture of The Great Pumpkin testifies to our insanity.

I thought I had this argument in the bag with well-rehearsed talking points and humorous anecdotes but my beloved James had some great rebuttals of his own, resulting in a fun and thought-provoking debate.

The woman doing the interview loved our quirky topic. She said we nailed the audition and made it past the first round. So now we wait. Our main challenges for being chosen:

1) Pumpkin season is over so getting video of the soon-to-be destroyed pumpkin is a challenge. They asked us to film some footage of it on our Flip camera and send it to them.

2) Somebody else is growing The Great Pumpkin and has our same issues with an even greater degree of hilarity.

If chosen to appear on the Marriage Ref, we would receive an all-expenses-paid trip to New York to be on the show and a generous prize package (last season was a second honeymoon/week-long cruise). Four different couples appear in each episode and the couple the audience deems the “most right” wins $25,000.

Fingers are crossed that will be me.

Why I Have One Foot….Err…Knee In the Grave

I’ve had a lot of inquiries about my knee so I suppose I should back up a bit to tell you what is going on.

Albeit very slowly because I’m an invalid these days.

No, I did not have an accident. That, at least, would made for a spectacular story. What I’m suffering from is just extreme wear and tear on my right knee from years of athletics. About a year and a half ago I started experiencing some moderate pain after running. A year ago, I had to abandon running altogether but was fine with my other activities.

Until recently.

I used to play competitive volleyball and got together with some friends in Utah to play over Spring Break. I couldn’t walk for two days afterward. I was also asked to be a leader on a pioneer trek and had to pull out because I knew my knee wouldn’t survive four days of extreme conditions.

Plus, I don’t look good in a bonnet.

It’s been the last two months that my knee has grown progressively worse. I went on a pretty moderate hike a couple of weeks ago, which caused a lot of pain. But the catalyst for finally calling the doctor was last week. I was hanging out on my bed watching TV and an unbearable pain overcame me. For about 2 minutes, I couldn’t bend or straighten my knee and I knew I needed to intervene–immediately.

I was on the phone with the doc the next day.

Since that time, I can’t even walk without limping. I had my appointment yesterday where X-rays were taken. The doctor observed, “If you will look at how worn out that area is, it looks like you’ve got arthritis.”

He went on to explain that there is likely a problem with my meniscus, which is a wedge of cartilage in the knee joint. However, the X-ray couldn’t reveal what is truly going on so I have to go back for an MRI next week.

Now, I’m sure most people would not be happy about the prospect of a more serious problem and a requisite MRI. And believe me, I’m trying not to think of that $2,500 co-pay (good-bye, Christmas).

But I was relieved it looks like more than just arthritis because I want this fixed. The prospect of living with it the rest of my life is not a good one.

Plus, arthritis is for old people, isn’t it?

When I go to the doctor’s office, an admitted guilty pleasure is catching up on all the gossip magazines. But the selection in this particular waiting room?

A wide assortment of Arthritis Today.

Welcome to my new life.

On humiliating and being humiliated

When Jamie and I moved into our current ward six years ago, we were remiss to leave our former congregation. Within a few months, my now-friend Lisa invited us to join an informal dinner group with some other couples.

Six years later, we’re still going strong. After participating in numerous parties that have included a murder mystery, Christmases and BBQs, these people are among our dearest friends.
Though looking at these pictures of our latest dinner/Halloween party one might ask “why.”

There is absolutely no proof that Red Riding Hood’s grandma/wolf is also our bishop.


Though his/her/its smock is lovely.

Evidently good Mormon folk crank out convicts & witches.

But Lisa should have been arrested for letting her husband Phil wear these pants in public.


Lawyer-turned-rock-star or not.

In addition to killer finger food (not literally), our delightful hostess Wendy had a full line-up of games perfectly choreographed to entertain and humiliate.


No commentary is needed.


Of course, no Halloween party is complete without the mummy wrap. I did the honors to my beloved James (you may see his little green pumpkin stem shooting out the top).

But there was none more creative than what the Big, Bad Wolf did to Little Red Riding Hood: two rolls of toilet paper…on her head (she’s the far left).

Forget swallowing someone whole; suffocation is a far more optimal strategy.

Though neither Jamie or I were feeling well, we had a blast. Really, the only person who was a bit wary of the whole thing was Bode. When Jamie took him to pick up our babysitter, Bode had one request:

“Daddy, can you have Mommy take off her make-up when we get home?”
“Why, Bode? Does it scare you?”
“Yeah.”

I can’t imagine why.

Cruising the Subway in Zion National Park

Venturing into the backcountry with a large gallimaufry of strangers has, in the past, instilled a deep sense of uneasiness within me. The ability level, pace and attitude of the individuals are of course wildcards, but even more frightening is the prospect that they share my ill-fated knack for getting into precarious situations.

So when my friend Ray (who, like the Queen Bee, only travels in swarms) suggested we plunge through the Subway with 10 of his friends, I was apprehensive. Exquisitely carved by the Left Fork of North Creek, this slot canyon in Zion National Park is a strenuous 9.5-mile hike—not a place to test the odds. While the lower canyon is a challenging but non-technical route, the upper canyon beyond the Subway is one of Zion’s great adventures that requires route finding through young lava flows and ancient sedimentary rocks, swimming through pools and cascades, and rappelling down waterfalls.

The Subway’s popularity has started to rival its famous counterpart, the Narrows. Beginning at the town of Virgin, 15 miles west of the South Entrance, the road into Kolob Canyon climbs 4,400 feet in 16 miles past jutting rocks, stiletto cliffs and soaring plateaus.The road winds past the Guardian Angel Peaks and eventually ends up at Lava Point, a fire lookout station at 7,900 feet.The panorama takes in Cedar Breaks to the north, the Pink Cliffs to the northeast, Zion Canyon Narrows to the east, and the Sentinel to the southeast.

We camped in a nearby campground, which brought a sense of containment. The colossal temples of Zion, christened after celestial deities, cocooned us. Gradually my focus narrowed to a starlit expanse of sky and I watched the Big Dipper poke its handle from the horizon. Then the canyon sucked in some wind. Cool gusts snapped by, and the pliant cottonwood crowns brushed against the starlight.

Ray’s group eventually filtered in, starting with Debbie and our technical climber, Doug. As the only one who had done the Subway, we were relying upon his expertise and guidance.I asked him how he knew Ray. “I don’t actually know him,” he replied. “I’m on an e-mail list and I indirectly received an invite.” A warning flag went off within me–our only experienced technical climber was an unknown quotidian? I joked that for all we knew, he could be an axe murderer.

As it happens, he did produce an axe later to chop firewood—a coincidence?

Around midnight, the rest of the now-weary group drove in:Ray, Tony, Stephanie, Telford, Joseph, Ray W., Jeff, Julie and Renée.Our site’s two car and eight people limit had been exceeded by four cars and seven people. When the park host pointed this out the next morning, I sweetly explained I was never very good at math. Somehow the dumb blonde approach worked and he let us off the hook.

Sandwiched in the Subway

The Subway. The name alone conjures up a mosaic of puns. During our passage through this slick-rock funhouse, I heard several wordplays that revolved around paying tokens for access and cruising down the subway. But after bouldering, climbing, swimming and hiking through this sinuous canyon, I decided the best analogy of all was that it was a little like eating a Subway sandwich in your kitchen, only you’re canyoneering down a murky slot canyon in Zion and you are the sandwich. The tufts of skin I left behind on a few rock ledges made a tasty snack for this circular, tube-like canyon.
Prior to setting out, we stopped at the Visitor’s Center to obtain our permit. The Left Fork is limited to 50 people per day and is the only route in Zion for which you can reserve a permit in advance. Permits may be picked up one day prior to the trip. Ten of the 50 spaces are set aside for walk-ins, so though reservations are not required they are advised due to the increasing popularity of the hike.

The most popular way to hike the Subway is to begin at the Wildcat Canyon Trailhead and end at the Left Fork Trailhead off Kolob Terrace Road. I served as the shuttle and dropped my Jeep off at the Left Fork Trailhead. I then hopped in the car with Telford and Joseph and we proceeded to the Wildcat Canyon trailhead. Telford and Joseph were my first exposure to Ray’s group and they warped me back to the 70s as they animatedly belted out the lyrics to Led Zeppelin. To their credit–they had a limited amount of sleep after driving all day so perhaps they were delirious. To their discredit–maybe that was really their normal condition.

Upon reaching the well-marked Wildcat Canyon trailhead, our group of 12 eased across the wooded, basalt-capped upland that was cloaked in a verdant woodland. Telford, a landscape architect in Arizona, assumed the role as tour guide extraordinaire.I teased him about his qualifications.A landscape architect in Arizona seemed like an oxymoron—what else is there to landscape besides rock and cacti in that barren desert?I was quickly silenced as he pointed out the ponderosa pine, white fir, Douglas fir, quaking aspens and then the ferns that were located in damp niches along the Kolob Terrace.The guy knew his flora and fauna.

We continued east 1.2 miles to the Northgate Peaks Trail Junction and then hiked 0.1 miles on the Northgate Peaks Trail until the forest began to open. Upon reaching the canyon rim, we gazed down into the sloping defile of Russell Gulch, with massive cliffs of Navajo sandstone rising beyond. Incessant winds had piled the grains into dunes that swept across the land.Hiking with care, we descended the rhythmic diversity of swirling, tilted and angular beds on an eroded surface toward the canyon bottom. Numerous trails, some cairned by past hikers, threaded their way down the steep slope.

Playfully, Tony leapt out behind the rocks a couple of times, scaring the bejeeters out of me. I obligingly let out a blood-curling shriek that stimulated raucous chuckles from the guys and their subsequent attempts to traumatize me. It took a record 45 minutes on the trail for them to realize that I am an easy target for teasing and torture.

We eventually landed upon a lofty point that overlooked the confluence of Russell Gulch and the Left Fork.From there, we made the crude, steep descent down a narrow gully of loose rocks and sand.Upon reaching the bottom, we were greeted by a large pool in Russell Gulch, whose walls had been streaked by years of mineral-laden waters.Twenty yards downstream marked the transit through the sculpted gorge of the Left Fork of North Creek. Sprawled between two somber monoliths, this cavernous, empty hallway wrapped us in an inescapable embrace.

From there, we sought the path of least resistance and boulder hopped our way up the canyon from one side of the small stream to another. Most of us had worn Tevas and those who wore hiking boots weren’t too worried about getting them wet.Except for Joseph.I watched with great amusement as he leapt from ledge to ledge with Superman-like dexterity in an attempt to stay dry.To his credit—he had some pretty spectacular jumps.To his discredit—he actually had Tevas in his pack and didn’t bother to bring them out until the hike was almost over.Oh, and he likes Led Zeppelin.

The first obstacle was only 200 yards from the Russell Creek junction–a bulky boulder that choked the narrow canyon and formed a 15-foot drop.A rope was positioned halfway down for hikers to rappel themselves to the canyon floor but there was a precipitous descent to reach it.A couple of the guys climbed down the face without benefit of ropes.The rest of us shimmied down the crack on the right side between the boulder and canyon wall.

The canyon narrowed after this point and we arrived at two deep pools laden with frogs sunbathing on the rocks.There was no way around it—Joseph’s feet would get wet, and we would have to swim.We all took different waterproofing measures—Ray put the contents of his pack in garbage bags, and others tossed their packs to those on the other side.But simplest of all was Jeff, whose waterproofing strategy was to keep his pack above water as he swam.This worked for the first few pools, but the last deep pool sent him spiraling beneath the surface. Just when I thought I had lost sight of him, I noticed something…an arm.Holding a pack above the water. I chuckled at his dogged determination and could almost hear him fervently chanting “Must…keep…pack…dry” underwater.

As we swam through the frigid waters of the pools, an almost palpable shiver ran through the group.The sun was our only reprieve as it bathed us and the surrounding monoliths in a golden light, its rays suffused with molten gold and pink shafts of light.The scene was a magical mixture of vegetation and stone, waterfalls and rainbows, folding sandstone and swirling clouds.

At the 4.5-mile mark, we reached Keystone Falls where a 6-foot rappel is required to descend into a thigh-deep pool.Tony and Jeff made a smooth descent without a rappel.I was next.I peeked over the edge and slowly eased down the rocks until I found myself perched on the notches of a log that leaned up against the falls.From there, I didn’t know what path to take.I could stay frozen like a grump on a log, I could jump, or I could wrap my arms and legs around the log and shimmy down.

I decided upon the latter option–or at least tried to.Not even one second after grabbing the log, I slipped and pummeled down its slivery surface. Tony looked at me and said, “Uh yeah, that’s one way to do it.”Ray W. judiciously looped his rope around the runner bolted to the right side of the canyon and Renée, Stephanie, Debbie and Julie gracefully descended.I consoled myself.I may not have scored points on my flawless entry but I made up for it on my level of difficulty…or idiocy.Mental note for next time:when a log is under a waterfall, it is very, very slick.

The rest of the hike is a blur, but what remains lucid is that I have never had so much fun in a slot canyon. We bouldered across the myriad of shapes and patterns in the sandstone and swam under chockstone boulders that were jammed midair above a watery labyrinth.We passed through intricate galleries of whorled stone and frigid channels, ventured onto roofed ledges to avoid impassable drop-offs and slid down picturesque cascades.

When we emerged from the Subway, we waded through the shining ribbon of water that curved around sandbars and between walls that rose in tiers like the layers of a wedding cake.We stopped often the final few miles and examined plants and rocks, and watched jet-propelled lizards scurry out of our way.The afternoon light was penetrating and incisive, and the air was particularly still and dry, allowing us to see astonishing details in the landscape at preposterous distances downstream.

The trail out of the canyon is easy to miss so we followed our guidebook and looked for two tributary streams that entered on the right.Just beyond the second stream (approximately 8.3 miles), we spotted prominent black lava outcropping high above us on the right rim of the canyon, and soon thereafter, we found the trail that lead to the summit.The final ascent was a grunt—the trail shot straight up shallow gully, finally reaching a plateau.Once at the rim, I thought I was home free but was dismayed when I realized I had to trudge another 0.8 miles through the scrub brush on the plateau.

The final stop on this Subway was my Jeep. Exhausted yet exultant, I marveled in the final parting views of the ragged cliffs that were spread like tattered draperies to the south, and at the bald crimson summit of Tabernacle Dome–mere highlights in a landscape where the spectacular is commonplace and every curve is an adventure.

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Knee Trauma and the Village Idiot

I’m stopping to come up for air after another one of *those* weeks. Nothing extraordinarily bad but definitely extraordinarily busy. It started with a rock-climbing adventure to Alderfer/Three Sisters, one of my favorite hiking areas in Evergreen.



The next few days were a compendium of business and church meetings, babysitting, deadlines and stress. I hit the wall a couple of nights ago when, out of nowhere, I had an excruciating episode with my knee, rendering me unable to walk.

I spent the next day on the phone with our insurance company tracking down an orthopedic surgeon. I’ve held off as long as possible due to our daunting $2,500 co-pay for anything beyond an office visit. This is what you get for being self-employed and have a husband with a horrid health history. This is on top of our sky-high monthly health insurance premium.

You’d better believe I’ve been watching the health insurance debates VERY carefully because we’re one of the victims of a failed system.

And you’d also better believe that socialized medicine is sounding pretty darn good to me right now.

I was feeling down and out that day. To top if off, I was teaching 17 Beehives (12- and 13-year-old girls) how to make apple dumplings at my house that evening. As I fretted about what to do with them while the dumplings cooked, a sign from God appeared.

OK, it was actually a package from Nintendo in the form of their newest release: Wii Party and (brace yourselves for this): my very own disco ball.

Suddenly, my life had meaning again.

And so we baked….

Watched It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown and we partied it up with Wii Party with our disco ball reflecting groovin’ colors.

The next day, the kids and I played Wii Party with Bode’s buddy, Larry. The little dude has never touched a Wii and Hadley treated him like the village idiot.

Being Wii-ignorant is the new leprosy.

Until said “Village Idiot” beat her.

It’s been a brutal week for everyone.

Disclaimer: My brother Jade’s portrayal as “Duct Tape Man” is the closest I could come to a picture of a village idiot.

Rock Creek Farms–Through the Years

You’d think with all the effort that goes into the pumpkin-growing season we’d have some reasonably-sized pumpkins to carve like most normal people.

We don’t.

And so we go to Rock Creek Farms in Broomfield, CO. This has been an annual fall tradition since Hadley was a baby. Things have changed just a wee bit over the years….

2006

2007

2008

2009
And for 2010, we invited several friends for a fun-filled day of bouncy castles, petting farm, straw maze and more.

Rock Creek Farms has also added wagon rides to their line-up but at $8 for adults and $5 for kids, we opted to save our money….

….to purchase a pumpkin bar, cookie and M&M caramel apple from their food stand.

Priorities, you know.

We also spent some time in the fields selecting the perfect pumpkins for carving. So impressive was the display of thousands of pumpkins that Bode, when he saw the sea of orange, proclaimed, “Oh. Ma. Gosh.”

Kid could totally be a valley girl.


We were thrilled with our selections until we walked into the door and the Lord of the Gourds freaked out. “PUMPKINS? YOU CALL THOSE PUMPKINS?”

He now has a new moniker: Pumpkin Snob.

The Canned Pumpkin Shortage & Recipes to Thrill Any Pumpkin Lover

With Halloween upon us, my family is in the throes of Everything Pumpkin. While my husband Jamie may be obsessed with growing The Great Pumpkin, I am consumed with eating it. My pumpkin craving began when I was six months pregnant with my firstborn and, six years later, has not abated.

But a nearly year-long shortage of canned pumpkin has put a dark cloud over the pumpkin lovers of the world. However, it was recently announced the shortage is over and USA Today reported:

“That means an end to the hoarding, rationing and even pumpkin profiteering that have been going on since heavy rain ruined last year’s harvest and caused a shortfall.”

In my defense, I only have about 20 cans of pumpkin stashed in my basement. And no, I’m not kidding.

A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I watched Seinfeld for the first time in years. The episode “The Sponge” centered around how Elaine, in a fit of hysteria, bought up every contraceptive sponge she could find when she learned they were being discontinued. I chastised her wayward moral compass as she tried to determine which of her suitors was “sponge-worthy.”

Until the next day.

It was the height of the canned pumpkin shortage and I was throwing a pumpkin party. One of my requests was for guests to bring their favorite pumpkin treat. In a panic, my friend Kristen called and told me she had been to several area grocery stores and could not find canned pumpkin anywhere. But then came the clincher:

“Amber, do you have any canned pumpkin I can use?”

I have to admit I hesitated. And then even worse, the thought crossed my mind:

“Is she pumpkin-worthy?”

And yes, she was.

It may have had something to do with the pumpkin cobbler she brought to my party the next day.

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Do you have any favorite pumpkin dishes? My favorites include:

Pumpkin won tons
Pumpkin fudge
Pumpkin gingerbread trifle
Pumpkin pie bars
Old-fashioned pumpkin pie
Pumpkin risotto,
Homemade pumpkin yogurt
Pumpkin fritters dessert
pumpkin gingerbread with caramel sauce
Pumpkin pie pancakes
Curried pumpkin soup

Jamie: King of the One-liners

Jamie has been going to the same hair stylist for a number of years and his haircuts have always been the same.

Until yesterday.

His normally-short hair was light and, dare I say….

“Jamie, your new hairstyle is kinda….errr…fluffy.”

“What? Are you worried about competition?”

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Last week, we caught the tail end of an investigative report on Catfish, a new movie about Internet dating deceptions. As many of you know, Jamie and I met online and our courtship was speedy: we were married within six months of that initial email.

For that reason, my family was understandably a bit wary and my brother Pat even gave Jamie this movie for Christmas:

It was his version of a “Welcome to the Family” gift.

As Jamie and I watched the unbelievable web of deceit unfold in Catfish, I decided to play along.

“Jamie, I have a huge confession that I’ve been holding onto for the past eight years of our marriage.”

“Oh yeah? What is it?”

“I’m not who I have claimed to be.”

“Good.”

Woman’s Day Travel Feature on Denver!

I am very thrilled to announce I am featured in the November issue of Woman’s Day, which hit newsstands this week. My understanding was that the magazine would interview me about my favorite Colorado haunts for a travel feature.

What I did not anticipate: they would send me a laundry list of questions and I, in turn, would spend HOURS writing 10 pages of well-researched recommendations. My blood, sweat and tears was condensed into a three-page spread that will inspire you to your very core.

OK, work with me here. I’m just a travel writer, not Oprah.

Regardless, I hope you, too will fall in love with Denver as I divulge my favorite activities that include skiing, climbing 14ers, shopping and eating. Several of my favorite places did not make their cut (i.e. Little Man Ice Cream, First Friday in Golden, Pearl Street Mall, etc.) because the magazine wanted November-centric activities.

Shoulder-season = a tough travel feature.

I was surprised when a friend on Twitter informed me I’d received a mention in The Denver Post’s gossip column. The only time I’ve had this “honor” was when I was a ski reporter for SkiUtah. For my birthday, I mentioned on-air to one of the radio stations I was hitting Jackson Hole for my birthday. The Salt Lake Tribune’s columnists Rolly and Wells ran with it, poking fun that “Miss SkiUtah was skiing Wyoming.”

Talk about controversial stuff.

Rest assured there are no exposés with Woman’s Day.

So, next time you’re at your local grocery story, skip over the Enquirer’s gripping headlines and say “YES!” to Denver (or read it here).

The (Pumpkin) Party’s Over

For most (normal) people, pumpkin season is just beginning. Last weekend marked the end of ours.

On Friday, a woman dropped something off at our house. “Wow, that’s a big pumpkin!” she exclaimed, referring to the kids’ 208-pounder at our doorstep.

I looked at her, puzzled. “You must have somehow missed my husband’s pumpkin?”

I walked her out to the driveway where I pointed out James’ beast. “That,” I said pointing to the kids’ pumpkin, “is not a pumpkin. THIS is a pumpkin.”

Crocodile Dundee would have been proud.

On Saturday, my kids entered their orange beast in our city’s giant pumpkin contest. Despite the fact Jamie’s pumpkins are now too large to enter, we continue to be supportive because that is where his obsession began three years ago.

Or maybe they should harbor part of the blame.

Jamie is a bit of a local celebrity. When we pulled up, a throng of local gardeners clamored around to see what their beloved Jamie had brought. Several others pulled me aside, raving how much he has done to help inspire and instruct other growers.

It was like hanging out with Elvis in Vegas.

The festival’s giant pumpkin weigh-off has come a long way. Once upon a time, Jamie’s 141.5-pound pumpkin won. This year the bar was raised. Throngs of people gathered to watch an elated Lori Fontyn win the adult division with a 360-pounder and my kids won the junior division.


The kids’ prize was a $50 gift certificate for a local garden center.

It’s tough to say who was the real winner because Jamie insisted we stop on the way home to buy $50 worth of gypsum and soil sulfur.

Because, rest assured, soil prep for the 2011 season has already begun.